Is there any one skill that all guys should have when it comes to meeting women? Yes there is! Its called “approaching women”. Now, there’s a ton of guys out there teaching it, and they all say what I just said. But I’m going to say something much radically different. I think “approaching women” should just be a part of your overall social skills. Approaching is only a hard-skill if you think its the most important thing in the world. All these “gurus” out there teaching you how important approaching is, are just screwing you up. The more you think its what defines you as a man, the more you’ll fear it. The more seriously you’ll take it, almost as if a life or death situation.

What you want to do is focus on being the cool, social, friendly guy. See, if your only goal is to be super chatty and friendly with everyone, it’ll be a lot more easier and relaxed goal. I know it sounds weird, but… If you actually go out there and talk to everyone, then you don’t even notice the women. I mean, they’re just another person you’re talking to. Its the 6th person you’ve approached today, because that’s just who you are. This particular one happens to be a hot woman, big deal. In fact, this is also the most attractive way to approach women! If you’ve ever seen all those mega-complex and contrived “approaching methods”, by gurus online… Here’s the truth about them. They’re all just fancy ways of circumventing her natural response to “hunters”. This is a guy who’s on the prowl, going out there, trolling for random women to hit on. She resents this kind of a guy. Her body immediately shuts down in response to such a guy. Well, some guys instead of dealing with the underlying problem (being a needy hunter), invented ways of circumventing her anti-hunter defenses.  

Well, here’s the good news. If you’re just a friendly, social guy, and that’s just who you are, you never trigger them in the first place!! She can tell if you’re just approaching her because you approach everyone, or because you’re on the prowl. And guess what, the most attractive thing a guy can be is the cool, social, charismatic guy.

You can spend years learning all kinds of tricks to trick women into accepting your approach. Or, you can take the easier, more effective way of BEING the kind of guy whom they naturally love being approached by. It’s simple. Just  get some books on starting a conversation and small-talk. Just make it your goal to start conversations with a few random strangers each time you leave the house. At first you can start with the easier, more natural situations, and later ramp it up to where you chat with everyone.

If you wanna read even more, go to youapproachwomen.com or Guy Gets Girl.

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